Attachment theory, pioneered by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, explains how early relationships with caregivers create patterns that influence our adult connections.
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14 questions. Find out whether you lean secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant. Nothing is stored.
The Four Attachment Styles
Secure Attachment
Comfortable with intimacy and independence. Communicates openly and trusts partners. This is the foundation Pali helps you build toward.
Anxious Attachment
Craves closeness but worries about abandonment. May seek constant reassurance. Pali helps you build self-soothing strategies and secure communication.
Avoidant Attachment
Values independence highly, may withdraw when things get too close. Pali supports gradual emotional opening at your own pace.
Disorganised Attachment
You may want closeness and pull back when it arrives. Pali can help you notice when that happens and think about a next step.
How Pali Uses Attachment Theory
Pali helps you notice your patterns and practise different ways to respond, one conversation at a time.